Disengagement

Some people have the determined idea that younger generations are worse than older generations. Others have the opposite idea. I see myself in this second group.
Nonetheless, this trend, disengagement, tries to resume what younger generations are loosing in terms of personal relations.
By this expression, I mean that younger generations might have less capacity for engagement, which is different than commitment.
It’s easier to understand the meaning of engagement if we think about conflicts. The person who is getting involved in a certain type of battle is engaging.
In a personal relation it’s possible to have commitment without engagement. For example, in a love relation it’s only natural that someone is committed to the relation as long as the other person acts under a certain way, like being faithful. This means that he is fully committed, but not totally engaged.
An example for the extreme of engagement would be someone who knows is being cheated, or even a victim of domestic violence, but still, holds to that relation with every possible effort. Like everything else, the extreme of engagement is bad.
But the opposite is not necessarily better. If our standards for friendship are so high that no one can comply, than it becomes impossible to have long lasting relations.
This concept can be applied to a much wider field than personal relations. It can also be applied to studies, work or a sport.
A top student who is giving a great effort into his studies may change his behavior dramatically when he finds some kind of contradiction like a severe teacher or being in a class where other students are smarter than he is.
What this tell us about future generations, is that they will search for commitments in order to feel like part of something, but it’s becoming ever more increasingly hard to resist to contradiction.
This might mean that we are loosing our capacity to deal with frustration and contradiction.